How your eyes shine…

As a child I wanted to accumulate variety of experiences life had to offer.Thrill of what awaits each day always the motivator, on my path of discovering the world.

I see that in my daughter’s eyes…. It is beautiful and powerful when they discover something new or figure out how something works.

The brightness in their eyes, that is what we slowly lose as we grow older.

So can you keep that alive? Or is it inevitable that it will burn less bright as the years pass.

Thou true, I think even as adults tied to routine, partly a little disenchanted by life, we still light up like children do, when we do or talk about something we love and excited by. I see it in people, when you get them to talk about their hobbies or a book or movie they love.

Of course as adults you cannot just do what you like 24/7, bills to pay, chores to do and children to look after.

Some have advised me life changes when you take that excitment you have for the things you love, to everything else in your life. It is ambitious, true to some extent but I found it cannot be sustained.

Making everything fun and exciting is not only always possible but sometimes it takes far too much energy that it is quite exhausting.

I remember when I got back to work after maternity leave. I used to think my days with my daughter must be filled with much fun and joy. Keeping the excitement level up after a few weeks gradually got harder. Because it is hard work keeping a toddler entertained😊

There are some days at work however I try, I cannot make it interesting. But you do it because it needs to be done and of course did I mention I get paid 😊

For years the fact my job wasn’t my passion used to thwart me. May be there were times when I should have walked away and followed my writing… I don’t know.

Some people are lucky to earn a living and dedicate their life to their passion or what they love. But not all of us are. And face it they also have their crappy, hard days and at times bored or frustrated. I remember my teacher at a Writting Course I attended, who is an Author said this about her writing career.

A thought that appeases my mind, imagine how will a society function? if we all only do what we love. What about all the mundane jobs that is necessary for a society to function efficiently.

This is not me telling you not to follow your dreams…I am only sharing my experience.

Because it took me a while to know what I really wanted to do, by then I had built a career, that facilitated a life style and another passion of mine then. Once I nearly did leave to follow what I thought was my passion. But stayed because I was offered a role I really wanted.

Now I am in a place, where my job is enabling me to explore my writing passion and support my family. My current role is challenging, that I am growing as a person.

This is the beauty of getting older, your perceptions of life mature and you care less about other’s perceptions. I am beginning to see life is fluid and it plateaus. Acceptance of it gives you the mind frame to not let yourself feel down, each time the waves dip.

Discovering however small or big, things you love doing or that make you feel alive and filling much of your life with it, does keep the light in your eyes bright.

This is why I truly believe in my first post where I talked about tapping into your younger self.

Tap into that child… And regain your dreams and curiosity for life, so you can discover your passions now. Whether fleeting or imaginary some of your childhood dreams were. It will take you on a path of discovery. Because it is all about trying remember what made you happy and excited. I remember I wanted life to be fun, joyful, filled with love, journey of discovery and about family.

You discover aspects of yourself that you had forgotten. I realised most of mine were centered around being creative, I wanted to be fashion designer while I looked like my favourite heroine 😊. A lot of my play was imagination, as I played out my favorite TV shows with my siblings.

As I got older I discovered expressions via words captivated me. I immersed myself in world of books. This where my passion for writing began unknowingly and ever so subtly.

Going back to that child helps me come back to create, a life I want to live now.

Life, it’s journey unique to each, yet with commonality. Roads may differ, as we travel and at times we meet at crossroads. but beginning and end feels the same for all…

A quote by Moi😊

7 thoughts on “How your eyes shine…

    1. True and it is something I have been struggling since becoming a mum because your life becomes so much about them and routine. At the same I also remember through her the wonderment of the world


  1. Great read. Once again, I can totally relate – my journey back to child-like self accelerated after life’s extreme challenges..or rather push towards the right path. Keep on writing..keep on sharing.

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